Life Coaching and why people like me are worried ...

Before I begin, If you are a life coach, read my article fully and then give me your own opinion about it. Thank you.

Over the years, I have been listening to the word "Coach" in a way I had not heard before. As kids, our only coach was the one training us in some kind of sport.

I still remember my swimming coach, Ms. Anderegg, who taught me how to fight for my dreams. I did and thanks to her I got a scholarship to go to College.

As an adult, I now see coaches everywhere in different areas. I see people taking courses about coaching and almost everyone I know wants to be a coach. Are they really coaches?

After a while, I decided to try to understand life coaching (This is what they are really called) and what it really means. I found out some really interesting things and one of them was that good life coaches don't even call themselves that. I even feel weird calling them that. I also found out a few more things that I will explain one by one with questions and answers... Ready, here we go!!!!!

1.-Are life coaches well trained for the tasks they claim they are good at?

I was shocked when I realized how undertrained many life coaches are. A lot of them are trained to the illusion that they can do what they claim. I was surprised at how many promises they make to people.

Can you create happy relationships in the family? "Of course, I can"
Can you make my business successful? "Of course, I can"
Can you help me control my anxiety? "Of course, I can"
Anything is possible if you meet someone once a week , answer their questions, show them your results and progress.

So far, I believe my grandmother was a life coach and she did not know it.

Every person is different and they try to achieve different things. There are so many fake goals and people sacrifice their life and health for nothing sometimes. You are normally told what to do by your mind, society, your social habits, your ego and sometimes your greed.

Can a life coach do reality checking and adequacy checking on the goals they promised to help achieve?
Yes ...
No ...

Some life coaches claim that they work with deep psychological and spiritual issues. They believe they can improve the relationship between humans while having a very vague understanding of the nature of humans.

Some life coaches assure that anything is possible. What a big mistake! I have met a few that really think different and believe that some goals cannot be achieved.
Some people are better coaches than some so called life coaches.

When you talked to some life coaches, they promise you will go from point A to point B with their guidance. You can’t help anyone build better relationships or better businesses by just asking questions and reflecting. There is more to it than that. You need to be able to train and develop the important skills for travelling from point A to point B. You also need to distinguish between something that can be learned and something that must come from inside.

In order to succeed, a life coach must take the niche they have expertise in and learn ant additional skills required to take their potential client from point A to point B.

During my research, one of the coaches I met was "Life coach, sexual coach, family therapist, business coach and marriage coach" ... I wonder how she got so good at all that being 22 years old. During one of our conversations, eating in my favorite Italian restaurant, she told me that being a coach was difficult and explained some strategies they use. This is what I understood from that conversation:

"They develop a fool-proof approach: they ask questions, give reflections, and have some “tools” to help them achieve their goal. These tools are scripted conversations that are supposed to work miracles with their clients’ minds."

The second time I met with her, I got to meet her "mentor". The interesting thing is that her mentor only coaches in training programs, but does not actually practice coaching in real life. Training soldiers to go to battle without knowing what battle is like does not make you a good combatant.

In my humble opinion, effective coaches must base their service on their own background and knowledge. That would be the only way for them to be realistic.

Life coaches should have issues of their own, must have faced existential crisis and have also looked for ways to deal with all this. The reflections of our own issues might really help fix what others are going through.

When I mentioned Ms. Anderegg, I made it clear that she had been my swimming coach, but she also, unconsciously, acted as my life coach. I didn't know what to do with my future and where to study. She went through that too when she was a teenager, so she helped me. I went to college on a sports scholarship and did well in both things. Ms. Anderegg did it years before me, but her life experience and coaching helped me. What did she use? Her expertise...

A lot of life coaches might read this and say that I am wrong. I might be wrong about some of them, but there are a bunch just walking on this planet doing stuff that I don't even want to mention.

Many of those of individuals, called life coaches, should find another way to make money and fame, and not pretending they care about other people.

Life Coaching has become a Fad and it is hurting society. I really hope the real Coaches understand that this worries me and many other people. Life Coaches are being put in the same box along with Youtubers, Influencers, TikTokers and any other of those fads that have been born over the years.

It was not my intention to hurt anyone and I just wanted to show what many of us think.

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